Author: Pete

  • My Health Is Non-Negotiable

    My Health Is Non-Negotiable 

      

    One of the things I’m scared of with trying to get my life back in order, is that something may inadvertently fall by the wayside.

     

    I mean, let’s face it … I’m going to be struggling with any full-time job and making sure I perform adequately in that arena. It would be very easy to focus all my attentions on that, at the expense of other areas of my life.

     

    Perhaps, say … my health.

     

    Especially, my health!

     

    But that’s not going to happen! 😠

     

    My mental and physical health is of prime importance to me. Even more so as I get older.

     

    And I’ve seen that killing yourself to do a good job doesn’t mean anything. It merely increases expectations of what you should do, from others.

     

    So I’ll somehow have to figure out how to combine any new work life with sufficient “me” time to ensure I keep my health and fitness at an optimal level.

     

    A case of working to live as opposed to living to work. 🙂

     

    I’ve also decided I’ll construct my own exercise and nutritional plan.

     

    I’m not a gym-junkie and recent years has taught me to live frugally and carefully.

     

    Therefore, any exercise plan I come-up with should be something I can do at home, with minimal equipment and be done within 30 minutes.

     

    Together with simply walking (the best exercise there is) I feel that should keep me relatively healthy and give me time to adjust to a new work-life.

     

    But I know my resolve will be tested at times.

     

    The litmus test will be how I respond when … not if … it happens. 🤔

     

    But I’m not going to dwell on that now as there’s no point focussing on things that haven’t happened. It just wastes emotional energy.

     

    So I’ll just start working on my exercise plan and see how it starts to unfold.

     

    Just another step in the grand plan to get me back on track. 🙂

     

  • Why Isn’t There a Button for That 🤔

    Why Isn’t There A Button For That?🤔  

     

     

    Well, if you’re reading this it means that you’ve found my website.

     

    Which means I must have successfully created one in the first place!

     

    And I did!

     

    All on my little lonesome. 🙂

     

    And I didn’t just use Elementor widgets in WordPress.

     

    I used AI to describe what I wanted the website to look like, then it provided HTML code, which I then imported into WordPress.

     

    I had to tweak some things but I’ve now got a fully-functioning website, which has “Submit” buttons and everything too.

     

    But the thing I’m most proud of is that I’m trying to stay abreast of technology and use it in a practical way.

     

    After I created the website, I had to think about what I then wanted to set-up with technology.

     

    I know automation and workflows are going to be more important in future so I’ve been brushing-up on automation tools, such as Make.com and Voiceflow.ai.

     

    Going through their tutorials and learning new skills.

     

    So I thought … wouldn’t it be great if whenever I published a new post, an email would automatically be sent to my subscribers telling them about it, as well as an X (formerly Twitter) post automatically generated? 🤔

     

    (By the way, to me, X will always be Twitter as X merely sounds like a premium-version subscription to Pornhub 🤨)

     

    See? … I’m trying to think like a top content-provider too!

     

    Anyway, I started building a scenario in Make.com, until I ran into the following problems:

     

    ❌ Make ceased allowing X to be used in integrations with Make scenarios (bummer 😟).

     

    ❌ If I send an email to my list using the generic “Send Email” module, I can’t include automatic unsubscribe links (which is mandatory).

     

     

    After thinking about this, I’ve decided to use the following workarounds:

     

    ✅ I’ll just create a Mailer Lite (the email provider I’ve decided to use) campaign and hook it up to my WordPress RSS feed. That way, unsubscribe links are automatically included.

     

    ✅ For the moment, I’ll manually post in X whenever I publish a new post on my website. If things ever get bigger I’ll revisit things then.

     

    I’m not particularly happy with the above. 😠

     

    I still feel that there should be a workflow I can set-up that allows the above to be done automatically.

     

    And perhaps there is! … I just haven’t found it as yet.

     

    But for now, what I’ve realised is that, despite all the marketing … despite all the noise about how seamless things can be … it’s not true.

     

    There is no button that does it all.

     

    Perhaps there will be at some point in future, but not now.

     

    And if there are human beings involved in the process is some way, shape or form, then there will always be friction.

     

    But I’m enjoying learning abut technology and its use cases.

     

    I like the idea that I can have a business on the side, run by a team of AI agents in future, utilising technology and automation and with just me as the sole human.

     

    It’s definitely something I’m keeping my eye on.

     

    But for now, I’ll just keep plodding-on, learning what I can about what’s out there.

     

    And basking in the glory of having created a website. 😬

     

  • Getting a Job is Scary

    Getting A Job Is Scary

     

     

    Ok … if I’m going to get myself back on track, I’ve got to start earning some money.

     

    If I don’t earn money, then I won’t be able to eat … which means there will be a tendency for me to die … which I’m trying to avoid.

     

    So that means I’ve been getting back on the job interview circuit.

     

    But boy have things changed!

     

    I mean, the last interview I attended was about 27 years ago! 😳

     

    And I’ve come to a few conclusions from the interviews I’ve attended:

     

    🔑 My former industry has been absolutely smashed

     

    Like many industries, COVID changed the rules.

     

    Now, a typical firm consists of a few people in the office and a lot more in India and The Phillipines.

     

    You’d probably be speaking more to your overseas contingent than the people in your own office.

     

    🔑 Ageism still exists

     

    A big concern of mine has been how I may be perceived, given I’m in my 50s and office colleagues may be in their 20s or 30s.

     

    I’ve had one or two interviews which didn’t progress which I’ve put down to the age factor, even though it’s never directly stated as such.

     

    “Culture” is a common euphemism that can handily encapsulate the “we think you’re too old” excuse.

     

    🔑 Some things don’t change

     

    Despite the gap in years where I’ve been out of my industry, I’ve noticed that not much progress has been made to better it.

     

    In my naivety, I would have thought more technological advancements may have occurred, but this doesn’t seem to have been the case.

     

    In fact, the way these firms operate their businesses is such that I can see some low-hanging fruit for them.

     

    🔑 Everybody is just exhausted

     

    With the amount of new regulations imposed by government in recent years, industry participants have simply had enough.

     

    Older participants are leaving.

     

    Younger participants are not entering.

     

    In fact, any interest firms have had in me is not so much because of any sparkling brilliance I may be displaying, but more of a desperation to lock-in anyone with half a brain who may be a net-positive for the firm in question.

     

    I’ve been going through psych and behavioural tests and I’ve had to bite my tongue to stop myself from telling them I’m a Grand Master at these from my dark days.

     

    But then again, maybe they wouldn’t care … just as long as I’m not a serial killer or something!

     

    I’m also questioning whether I’ll be able to handle what I’ll be letting myself in for.

     

    After going through recuperation and rehab for a number of years I know I won’t be starting at my peak.

     

    But I also know I have to start somewhere and apart from earning a wage, this move would get me interacting with people again on a daily basis.

     

    And learn more about what technologies could be a good fit for businesses out there.

     

    As well as being able to eat still … 🙄

     

    Small steps .. small steps.

  • The Four Pillars: My Blueprint for Starting Over at 55

    The Four Pillars: My Blueprint For Starting Over at 55

     

     

    After spending years crawling back from rock bottom, I had a realization that changed everything.
     
    Hope wasn’t enough. Good intentions weren’t enough. I needed a system!
     
    When you’re rebuilding a life from scratch in your 50s, you can’t just throw spaghetti at the wall and see what sticks. You need a framework. A blueprint. Something that gives structure to the chaos of starting over.
     
    That’s when I decided to develop a “Four Pillar” approach to moving forward.
     
     
    🏗️ Why Four Pillars?
     
    Think of it like rebuilding a house. You wouldn’t just fix the roof and ignore the foundation, right? Everything’s connected. Your financial health affects your mental health. Your physical condition impacts your confidence in job interviews. Your social connections influence your motivation to keep going.
     
    I realized that to truly get Pete back on track, I needed to work on four fundamental areas simultaneously. Not perfectly, not equally every day, but consistently across all four.
     
    💰 Pillar 1: Financial Rebuilding
     
    Let’s be honest … money matters, especially when you’re starting over at 55. This isn’t about getting rich quick or chasing the latest investment trend. It’s about:
     
    🔹 Building emergency funds from zero
     
    🔹 Understanding how the job market has changed
     
    🔹 Learning new income streams (hello, digital economy!)
     
    🔹 Making smart decisions with limited resources
     
    🔹 Planning for a future that looks nothing like what I originally mapped out
     
    Financial stability gives you options. Options give you freedom. Freedom gives you the space to rebuild everything else.
     
    💪 Pillar 2: Health & Fitness at 55
     
    Recovery from physical and mental health issues taught me something crucial: you can’t build a new life in a broken body. But fitness at 55 isn’t about looking like a 25-year-old Instagram model. It’s about:
     
    🔹 Rebuilding strength (mental and physical) after years of neglect
     
    🔹 Understanding how your body works differently now
     
    🔹 Creating sustainable habits, not crash diets
     
    🔹 Managing stress through movement
     
    🔹 Having the energy to tackle everything else on this list
     
    Your body is the vehicle for your comeback. It needs to be roadworthy.
     
    📱 Pillar 3: Digital Skills & Technology
     
    Remember when “going viral” meant getting sick? Yeah, that world is gone. Whether I like it or not, the future is digital, and I need to catch up. This means:
     
    🔹 Learning the platforms everyone else seems to know instinctively
     
    🔹 Understanding AI, automation, and how they can help (not replace) me
     
    🔹 Building an online presence that opens doors
     
    🔹 Staying current without drowning in information overload
     
    🔹 Using technology to create opportunities, not just consume content
     
    I’m not trying to become a tech bro. I’m trying to become fluent in the language of the modern world.
     
    🤝 Pillar 4: Social Renaissance
     
    This might be the hardest one. After years of isolation and recovery, putting yourself back out there feels terrifying. But humans aren’t meant to rebuild alone. This pillar covers:
     
    🔹 Rebuilding confidence in social situations
     
    🔹 Creating new friendships and professional networks
     
    🔹 Dating (gulp 😳) in the app era
     
    🔹 Contributing to communities again
     
    🔹 Sharing experiences and lessons learned
     
    🔹 Finding your tribe in a world that’s moved on without you
     
    Connection isn’t just nice to have … it’s essential for sustainable recovery and growth.
     
    🔗 How This All Fits Together
     
    Here’s the thing about these four pillars … they’re not separate projects. They’re interconnected parts of one bigger project … getting Pete back!
     
    Some days I’ll focus more on one pillar than others. Some weeks, one area will demand more attention. But the goal is consistent progress across all four, because that’s how you build a stable foundation for whatever comes next.
     
    📑 What This Means for You (and This Site)
     
    Going forward, every article I write will touch on these pillars in some way. I won’t be putting big flashing signs saying “THIS IS PILLAR 2 CONTENT!” because real life doesn’t work in neat categories.
     
    Instead, you’ll see how they weave together. How learning a new digital skill (Pillar 3) boosted my confidence in networking (Pillar 4). How getting stronger physically (Pillar 2) gave me the energy to tackle financial rebuilding (Pillar 1). How all four pillars supported each other as I slowly, steadily, built momentum.
     
    You’ll witness my successes and failures across all four areas. The breakthrough moments and the face-plant disasters. The days when everything clicks and the days when nothing works.
     
    Because that’s what real recovery looks like. Not a straight line up, but a messy, interconnected journey where progress in one area supports progress in all the others.
     
    Pete is back.
     
    And he’s got a plan. 😬
  • Why Pete Disappeared … (And Why He’s Back)

    Why Pete Disappeared (And Why He’s Back)

     

     

    🌟  The Day Everything Changed

     

    Until I turned 50, I had what most would call “the good life.”

     

    A loving family, a successful career, financial security. I’d built it all carefully over decades, brick by brick. I thought I had it figured out.

     

    Then, like a house of cards in a hurricane, it all came crashing down.

     

    The divorce papers … the empty side of the bed … a friend’s funeral … the pink slip. My child’s confused eyes asking why Dad didn’t live here anymore. Each blow landed before I could recover from the last, until I found myself on my knees, gasping for air in a life I no longer recognized.

     

    ⬇️  The Descent

     

    What followed wasn’t a movie montage where the hero dusts himself off and conquers the world in 90 minutes.

     

    This was real life …  and it was brutal.

     

    ⚡️ Major depression that made getting out of bed feel impossible

     

    ⚡️Complex PTSD from trauma stacked on trauma

     

    ⚡️Burnout so severe I forgot why I’d ever cared about quarterly reports

     

    ⚡️Anorexia that left me a shadow of my former self, literally and figuratively.

     

    “Give it a few months,” I told myself. “You’ve overcome challenges before.”

     

    Months turned to years. Years spent in therapists’ offices, support groups, and the darkest corners of my own mind. There were days I wasn’t sure I’d make it back at all.

     

    🌱  The Long Road Back

     

    But here’s the thing about rock bottom …  it’s solid ground to build on!

     

    Slowly, painfully, I clawed my way back to something resembling normal. Not the old normal … that Pete was gone forever. But a new starting line.

     

    🌅  Starting Over at 55

     

    Now I find myself here, at 55, essentially starting from scratch.

     

    The world I’m returning to isn’t the one I left.

     

    🔹 Technology has leapt forward

     

    🔹 The job market speaks a language I’m still learning

     

    🔹 Dating apps? … Cryptocurrency? … AI assistants?

     

    It’s like waking up in a foreign country where everyone else knows the rules.

     

    But I’m here … I’m alive … and I’m ready to figure out what comes next.

     

    Why “Pete Is Back”?

     

    This site is my chronicle of starting over in midlife. The victories (landing that first interview!). The defeats (what do you mean my resume needs to be “ATS-optimized”?). The absurdities of learning TikTok at 55. The unexpected joys of discovering who you are when everything you were has been stripped away.

     

    I’m sharing this journey anonymously as “Pete” because honesty requires safety. There are things I need to say, experiences I need to process, that require the freedom anonymity provides. My story is unique, but I suspect the themes are universal for many of us navigating the second half of life.

     

    🤝  Join Me

     

    If you’re rebuilding after loss, pivoting after setback, or simply curious about one man’s journey back from the brink … welcome 🙂. This is a real-time account of what it takes to rebuild a life from the ground up in your 50s. Pete is back. He’s different. He’s scarred. But he’s moving forward.

     

    And maybe, just maybe, that’s enough.

     

    You can also check-out my blueprint for moving forward at 55 here